What a tumultuous year 2020 has been, totally not what anyone expected at all. Just as if our world had been tipped upside down, we have all been shaken about and then dropped back down to ‘terra firma’ left with the idea – ‘what actually hit me’?

This year has been a year when we have been asked and on numerous occasions, to totally re-evaluate our lives. From simple things to life changing subjects. A lot of people have been confronted with illness, loss of family members, but the underlying factor the entire year was fear. And we all know that fear creates power. But the wrong sort of power! We are so shell shocked by events that we tend to just go along with what we hear, see or read, without ever asking ourselves, can this be right? Is it right?

To be honest I have stopped watching the News and also reading the papers, it is so depressing. Each and every single day for months there is a daily update of figures of people either infected, hospitalized, or passed away all because of a virus, which hit the world big time.  I personally feel and I begin to wonder more and more what is true and what is fake?

There is no unity anywhere in the world about the precautions, each and every country seems to be doing its own thing and as far as The Netherlands is concerned, we seem to be ‘lagging behind’ the rest. Wasn’t that the whole point of the EEC to be united as one front? All I am hearing at the moment, is the endless (boring) discussions still going on about Brexit! I thought that was all done and dusted, didn’t you? However, I am not putting down the need to form good sensible trade agreements, but do you, like me, think there is never going to be an agreement, however many meetings they hold in Brussels?

This is one of the very simple examples of how easily our world has been filled with negativity.

And right at the moment when we are standing on the brink of an amazing shift in human consciousness.

On the socials you can read many posts about it all. Every single spiritual person and anyone who has influence is talking about it. That is all fine, but can you relate it all back to your own actual situation. Many people have been forced to go within and by that, I mean, away from literal physical contact, and then we all have the time to take a serious look at our lives. Are we actually living our dream, or merely wandering along in the rat race, doing what is expected of us? It is not an easy question to answer is it?

The one word that came up this morning, when I started this blog was HOPE. 

Hope that things will at least get better. But it begins with you and me and literally everyone, because as long as we just keep following the herd and not making up our minds for ourselves, then nothing is going to change. Change is about choices; I have written about this many times. And then it becomes personal, it is then about the choices you make.

Do you want to make a change, a positive one? The way I see it is this: If we all start to think about making a change in our life this also has an effect on everyone else too. Similar to the ripples on a pond, when you throw in a stone, the ever-increasing circles. And more important the choice you take and the action you do, has the same effect on a much bigger scale on the entire human race. 

Yes, you may be thinking how can anything I do make a difference? Well, it can. Great inventions occurred because one single person dared to make a choice. Dared to stick up for what they believed in. A great example of this, was in a film I watched recently. Bohemian Rhapsody, the story about Queen. When Freddie Mercury wrote the lyrics for the song, their manager at the time, laughed at him. Saying how stupid it was to make a song which lasted 6 minutes with stupid nonsensical words too. No radio would ever play it, and no one would ever listen, the manager said. It caused such a disagreement that Queen walked out and left the manager. I wonder what the same person thinks now. Bohemian Rhapsody is the most popular song ever, it tops the charts every single year and has done so for years. Everyone around the entire world knows the song. So, in that way, Freddie Mercury dared to stand up for what he believed in. The entire band too. This is just an example, but you can feel how those ripples increased and increased and increased to such an extent it is now a ‘classic’.

What would happen if we all dared to do something like that? I am not talking about things on a worldwide scale but more on a personal one because everyone knows the theory about one slight movement in the water, makes a huge wave in the end. What could you possibly change in your life, or do differently that would make it better? Not only for you, but the people who surround you. It is something to really think about isn’t it?

But then the word comes back again HOPE. What do you hope for in 2021? What would you like to do which is different from what you are doing now? The first place to begin is to ask yourself within, who you really are and what you want to do. A friend of mine in his recent blog spoke about the exciting times we are in, the huge energetic shift, which Planet Earth is on the verge of making and this will have a universal effect too, but the point is here, like he wrote, that you and I and literally everyone is here right NOW and we are all part of it.

Remember the famous words when the US astronauts landed on the moon? ‘One small step for man, a giant leap for all mankind’. That was back in 1969, July 20th to be exact and it was Neil Armstrong. And we all remember it don’t we?

Are you ready to think about what your step will be? You only need a small step! It’s a bit like the lyrics for the song I wrote about above, one word becomes two and then you have a first sentence. That is the way it works when you want to make changes or choices. You don’t have to do it all in one go. Baby steps first then you can go jumping and leaping. Because you have to feel one with your choices. There is absolutely no point whatsoever making a choice when your heart is not behind it. It has to feel right and meaningful in every single cell of your body. In your heart, in your mind and your emotion. You have to physically be able to do what you have chosen to do. But remind yourself there is one single word that you can focus on when making such choices and that is HOPE. 

HOPE is like a flame in the heart which never goes out. It may dwindle to just a small flame or be a raging fire inside, but never lose it. Never. Whatever happened to you in 2020, just remember this on New Year’s Eve, as you stand at the moment of stepping into a New Year, you can let go of the past. You cannot change what has happened at all, only look forwards and make the choice to move in that direction too. Let go of absolutely anything which no longer ‘fits’ in what you believe. That is after all the first step… the rest will follow if you always have HOPE in your heart.

Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas (which is definitely doing to be different this year) but focus on the important things. Let’s all hope that 2021 will bring the changes we all dream of. Happy New Year!

Thank you all for your support for all my work this past year. There are so many people subscribed to the feed and it is a huge compliment to receive your comments.



Over the past few days, I have been busy with an Instagram story in the form of a sort of digital Advent Calendar, with photos and music (when I can find an appropriate song). I had just started on about Day 2 and I noticed that suddenly everyone seemed to be doing the same. A huge compliment, but probably more a case of ‘great minds think alike’.

I was searching for something a little bit different, not just photos from Pinterest and music (you know all the ones you hear non-stop on the radio around this time of year) – just something a little bit different.

Then I suddenly thought about an old Christmas song I remember from my childhood about the Twelve Days of Christmas. It is one of those repeating songs, but everyone seems to know it:

On the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me ‘A partridge in a pear tree’. Not exactly the handiest of presents I would guess, anno 2020, and you would always be worried if the partridge would stay sitting on the branches or just fly off (ha-ha). Not to mention all of those people who go on about animal protection rights etc.

So, the song goes on:

On the second day of Christmas my true love gave to me ‘Two turtle doves’ and of course repeat the sentence once more about the partridge in the pear tree.

The third day  – 3 French Hens

The fourth day – 4 Calling Birds

The fifth day – Five Golden Rings

The sixth day – 6 Geese a laying

The seventh – 7 Swans a swimming

The eight – 8 Maids a milking

The ninth – 9 Ladies dancing

The tenth – 10 Lords a leaping

The eleventh – 11 Drummers drumming

The twelfth – 12 Pipers piping

I got interested in the origin of this song, because the majority of English-speaking children know it well and were all taught. It is sort of like a game of Memory … that you remember what you got the day before and right back to day one.

And guess what this song seems to be the most popular Christmas song ever! It has been recorded by many artists, even to present day. The lyrics were first published in 1780 !!! but there is some suggestion that the original words came from France (maybe this was the reference to the 3 French hens). Weren’t English ones good enough?

The song is all about the presents that someone receives over Christmas from their true love … long before we had online shopping and top list suggestions.

The song really starts on 26th December (Boxing Day) and goes on until 6th January (12th night). Boxing Day is also known as the feast of St Stephen.

The song is comprised of what is called ‘chain lyrics’ or in other words, repeating sentences, a bit like I said above, a memory game.

The best-known version is the song that James O Halliwell published in 1842 in the 4th edition of the Nursery Rhymes of England (1846). I mean this is really old and traditional.

So many versions have been made in many languages, apparently even in Dutch (and I did not know this) by Jan Rot. You learn something every day!

But there are so many traditions around the month of December. More than any other month in the year. Is it because we are recalling memories before the year comes to an end? Nostalgia? 

Yesterday one of the grandchildren was telling me the story of Christmas and all about the birth of Jesus, ‘in a stable’ he said: ‘in a crib’. It is actually very lovely how the children in 2020 are still talking about probably the most famous story of all time. I had to laugh when his mother asked him: ‘and who were the parents of Jesus Christ’. His reply was” ‘how many times have I said that you mustn’t say Jesus Christ, it’s just Jesus, he was a baby’. And if there was ever sense in the saying: ‘from the mouths of babes’. 

But Christmas this year (2020) is going to be very different for many people all over the world, so perhaps it is exactly the right time to remind ourselves of the old traditions and stories. Sing the old songs, dance around the house, turn up the volume. And yes, it’s perfectly ok to allow the emotion to come through as well. As it will.

Modern technology (Facetime, Skype and video calling) makes it possible for all of us to connect all over the world. It may not be the same as sitting down around the table as a family, but you can certainly have a Zoom breakfast all together on Christmas Morning. Why not? That is the upside of technology today.

That was why I started by Instagram Advent Calendar story at the beginning of this month, it was looking back at old traditions and stories and rhymes. And some are really ancient. But the whole point is that it jogs a memory in you again, memories of your own childhood, parents, grandparents and all the things you did.

I remember when I was very young, we always used to walk in the village to the phone box (goodness this is making me sound ancient too) and phone my grandparents who lived several hundreds of miles away in the north of England. It was (in my recollections) always a dark starry night, frosty and on the way back home my father would always ask if I could hear the bells on Santa’s sleigh? I only have to hear the first few notes from the song, Jingle Bells, and it reminds me of those Christmas times long ago. 

I am not missing the commercial side of Christmas at all this year with shopping restrictions, you can get literally everything online these days, delivered to your door, but you miss the atmosphere, the Christmas markets, the smell of gluhwein (which I love) not so much for the actual red wine, as I normally cannot drink it, but those scents and aromas you always remember, spices, oranges, cinnamon, cloves etc. All those memories stored away in your mind. The endless Christmas songs playing on the radio.

Recently, I have watched a huge amount of Christmas movies on Netflix etc. The same story, always, romance, love etc., but the thing is the atmosphere, built around it. Decorating the tree, singing carols, making gingerbread houses, hot chocolate with marshmallows, peppermint lattes, candy canes, but most important and the purpose of this blog, to remind us all about the connection with one another. Forgiving and forgetting those who may have acted in ways we did not expect, quarrels, disagreements or things that offended us. Let it go and make this time a moment to reconnect. With a fresh view. Getting ready to step into 2021.

Working together with one central theme, LOVE.

Astrologically it is the perfect moment, you can read all about it on all the socials. Saturn and Jupiter will come together and appear like two big stars very close together in the night skies. They are actually both at 0 degrees in star sign Aquarius. The beginning of the new age, remember? Now that was a famous song too!


Recently I wrote a blog about whether or not you are an ‘influencer’ or ‘just influenced’. In my wildest dreams I never expected so many reactions from so many people. Unfortunately, a lot of sad stories too, shared in confidence, but at the same time, its ok to generalize and tell you about them too.

I find myself continually asking why people attach so much importance to being popular on social media. Is it to flatter the ego or just to be considered as someone important? In other words, an influencer or someone influential. A person who others look up to and follow as an example? Sure, there are differences between the real influencers and by that, I mean people like The Obama’s, Oprah Winfrey, a lot of Hollywood film stars, popular singers, royalty and such like. People look at them as those who set an example for others. If this is entirely true, I am not sure. Maybe yes, maybe no.

Yes of course there are inspirational posts, but you have to be selective and not take everything at face value all the time. You have to think that maybe some of the so-called influencers are posting not only for their own ‘feel-good moment’, but they are often sponsored by special brand names and either get free goods and samples or receive payment for each post. I remember being totally flabbergasted one time by the income that footballer Ronaldo Cristiano receives per year for social media posting. This is big business! Going up to millions of dollars a year. But for those who have good insights into the costs of advertising, say in newspapers, or magazines, will realize that social media advertising is very lucrative and then we come back to the web of algorithms I talked about in my previous blog. Literally anything to keep your attention for as long as possible. That is what it is about! And even worse if you are tempted to order products using their so-called special discount codes it is only giving them more and more.

Unfortunately, though the downside is that a lot of data, specifically photos then become available and unprotected for all of us. I heard a lot of sob stories in all the reactions I received of people complaining that their photos were used to create false accounts. Well yes, obviously they will be if you are continually posting day in day out and believe me, social media giants like Facebook and Instagram (who are actually the same conglomerate) might sympathize if you are lucky, but they will do very little to help you. You can report, block, dismiss and delete but it does not stop those who are constantly searching for profiles to use. By this I mean the rows of ‘suggested for you’ contacts.

What made me sad was the stories I read from people who have been misused and mostly for one thing. Money. Even though to me it seems absolutely not done to ever send money to someone you don’t know personally, believe me people do. There is so much phishing email and scams at the moment, even in encrypted WhatsApp that you may receive a message from your own family members for money and send it in all innocence to find out later it was a scam.

It is really scary how much and how easily our data can be accessed. I noticed this in a recent TV documentary where software was placed (remotely) into someone’s phone and then used to track down a fake person posing as someone else. That is pretty damned scary. Another thing I know is that if you have your ‘Location’ on, is that you can be tracked literally where you are, what time you are there and in fact all your daily movements. Needless to say mine is switched off. Have you ever looked at the settings on all your apps and seen how many give camera and microphone access? Do, you will be amazed and the only advice I can give, is close it off if you don’t need it.

Big brother is watching you whether you think he is or not! Believe me he is!

But the blog caused a bit of stir, which on the one hand is great for me because then I know people read it, but on the other hand, sort of depressing that there are so many freaky people all over the place, who firstly have nothing else to do than impersonate another and secondly actually have the time as well.

And I haven’t even started to talk about the people who have accounts and communicate with so many people (who they either do or do not know), the latter being the point and how much rubbish they can write. Thing is: how many people are they actually writing the same message to? More than you may think. I had several stories which related back to one or two people.

Yes, I could name them and give you all the link to their accounts, but that is not my style. I am someone who still respects another’s privacy, even though I may not agree with what they are doing, I think it is their choice and that they have to live with it. Things can go horribly wrong and then who is to blame. The victim or the perpetrator?

My only advice is what I have said before. Check your own account regularly. Maybe make a golden rule for yourself, like me, to only accept the people you know personally or have met in person. This seems the safest way to me and also regularly filter your Facebook contacts. Often, we are added into groups almost automatically and then find ourselves commenting to a post that someone we know had made and then being inundated with comments from people we do not know. This does not of course, apply to closed groups. Why? Because you are then asked if you want to join and then if you click on ‘yes’ it has become your own choice. Simple really. But you have to think about your choices, it’s been said so many times before and it’s the only sound advice too.

I was grateful to the people who were brave and shared their story. That is being not only vulnerable but authentic too. Literally daring to share and comment makes them the winners in my opinion. Of course, every single one of us makes mistakes, but the great ones are those who dare to admit it and move on. That is after all how we learn. What we came here to do in the first place. There is never a path or road anywhere in the world, where the surface is smooth and its easy going all the way. There will always be challenges and also saboteurs (and in this case social media ‘so called’ influencers). Just be brave and don’t be taken in. The moment that your gut feeling tells you that something is just not right, then listen to it and move on. It’s the best way, believe me, no matter how much you think you can’t or how much you are involved. The big question is: are you? and with whom?

Again, many thanks for all the reactions and just keep checking. Your passwords too, it does not take long to change them and you can save and update them all in a ‘3 step protected wallet’. Use the really strong difficult passwords that are recommended and if you are worried about not remembering, save them and you could take a screen shot, write it down somewhere safe and then delete the photo.

As I wrote the majority of this blog yesterday, I have sort of debated a bit about whether I will share a little bit more from the stories I received and again I think it is pretty scary when you see the same name cropping up again and again.

Even though as a writer, freedom of the press and so on, it is not my style to mention the names, but as a story writer I can make a story (which in this case is true) into fiction. I had more than 50-odd reactions about this person who will call for the sake of the story ‘soldier boy’.

An Instagram social influencer who has many followers and follows many too. The very moment that you make some form of comment to any post, trust me you will suddenly find a message in your direct message box. And it usually begins with copious thanks for being a fan (did you know you were?) and then saying how lovely it is to meet people and the chat gets going. It will not be long before you are asked: Are you on Google Hangouts or WhatsApp. Going to WhatsApp means giving your private mobile number. My advice do not!

But Hangouts is a sort of chat program too, related to your Gmail (or Google) account. It always begins the same, well that is what my readers told me. A nice little chat when the only point is to make you feel sorry for them. Usually, a breakup from a relationship, lost their partner, lost family members and yes, they are so grateful to have a friend to talk to in these troubled times. Believe me the Corona crisis was ‘music’ to these people’s ears. People had more time, were at home more often and often looking for more contact via social media. This was absolutely the case with ‘soldier boy’.

And then daily posts, non-stop stories and if you have clicked on the ‘follow’ button you will be constantly inundated with information. If at this moment you begin to have your doubts, then my advice is to click off and block the contact, but by this time you have been completely taken into their story. A lot of the time, chats begin with the cheesy comments, like Hi Honey, Hi dear, Hi beautiful and if you feel flattered which every single person would, you are then whether you know it or not into some form of relationship. The ‘soldier boy’ starts to share a lot about his life but believe me he has a full-time job on his hands chatting to a load of people and they all get the same story. You may notice that your direct questions don’t get answered and you are expertly led into a discussion about something else.

At a certain stage he will share a secret with you. About his lifelong dream and he is so excited it is about to happen. Please remember he tells you I am only telling you because you are so special to me. Again, the flattery. But remember it is all b.s. he is saying that to loads of people at the same time. When the moment comes, and it will, when he asks for financial help, then you are going to have to come up with a reason why you can’t. And this is where the sad bit comes in, that people actually think they are in a relationship with this person and yes, they want to help, of course they do and the moment they refuse, then the tables are turned immediately. Your friendly contact suddenly becomes angry and then goes on to blame you for the failure of his dream. Accusations, abusive comments some of which are very below the belt and you end up in a sort of nightmare situation. On the one hand it was all going fine and suddenly you are ‘persona non grata’. In all the comments I received about this person, it was exactly the same each and every time. And then how do you get out and away?

The answer is very simple and please remember here that it is your choice. Stop taking any notice of the messages you receive, delete the chat and then block the person and report. It is the only way even if you think your heart is breaking. I was absolutely shocked to read how many of my storytellers had actually sent money! No surely not? But yes, they had. ‘Soldier boy’ knows exactly what to say and how to target and once the money is received, you will not hear from him again. He will move on, laugh his head off and think what a stupid person you were. Hard but true.

People like this are the ‘pits’ in my opinion because they take huge advantages of other people and it’s almost a form of abuse. There isn’t really any option whatsoever to make or file a report, this is happening, all day every day and it will continue to do so until you make the ‘golden rule’ for yourself if you are on social media. Restrict your contacts to the people you know personally.  It is simple and even though you may like to think that you have loads of followers or people interested in you, the real ones are those you know. There are sites online where you can report, but I ask myself if this really has any effect. If in doubt and it is something serious, then of course call the Police. If someone is stalking or threatening you.

I keep writing about this and I keep receiving comments from a serious amount of people who have fallen for this. In a few weeks it will be 2021 and you could think about a real clean out for the New Year in your own social media. Just restrict it to those you know and remember once more, it is your choice to accept a chat or not. Remember that. You are not being forced to and even though you may think they are handsome, charming, have lovely eyes and so on, you HAVE to ask yourself one simple question: Is this the real deal? There are fakes and imposters using other people’s information and photos to make accounts but and this is even worse, there are people with accounts which actually belong to them, but it is all a game to them to chat to many and to get the maximum they can from literally everyone. ‘Flattery will get you everywhere’ is a well-known phrase. But ask yourself, how far will you go? How desperate are you for the attention? How much can you trust that it is genuine. It may look it, it may sound it but how can you be totally sure. You can’t. Not unless you know them personally.

These are questions that I am afraid I cannot answer but I can only tell you that the stories I received as comments to my own blog were shocking. I personally feel ‘soldier boy’ and he is a real person, is a complete and utter insult to his profession. If this rings a bell with you are you happen to know who I mean, then please think again and get off the chat with him.

Forewarned is forearmed. Remember that!



I just happened to read a ‘heated’ discussion on someone’s Instagram post yesterday which made me think about this: Are you actually an ‘influencer’ or ‘just influenced’?

This is a popular term at the moment, for literally thousands of people all across the globe who apparently have nothing else to do than continually post about their lives on social media. Yes, yes, I post too, and actually this week I did three posts in one day for the first time ever. And that was just to share some magnificent photos of the an amazing sunset. The incredible colors in the sky on that particular moment.

So, what is the definition of an influencer?  Quite simple really: a person or a thing that influences another. A person with the ability to influence potential buyers of a product or service by promoting or recommending the items on social media (thank you Oxford English Dictionary!). Well in that case there are millions of them. From well-known influential people like royalty, film stars, rich and famous people, TV personalities, singers, song writers and so the list goes on.

But an influencer today is someone with a social media account, either Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Facebook etc., who spends their days continually giving everyone the impression that they lead the most exciting life ever. Really? Often, they are supported by products, like supplements for example and often offer a special discount if you follow them and use their code. And this is where I started reading this discussion between two followers on such an account. One was very disgruntled because the account holder never reacted to any of their comments. Well, no, they never will because that is not the point. The other however, sung praises for the person concerned saying what a great influencer they were and to stop carping on and basically get offline. Is that what social media has come to then, a ‘slagging match’ when you don’t agree with what others say or think. This is definitely true for Twitter and the best example ever is of course Donald Trump, famous for all the ‘nonsense’ he posts out.

Of course, every single person wants perfection. We all do. Whether you agree with me or not, you and me and in fact everyone, is influenced by this. It can be from simple things like the ‘best decorated Christmas Tree’ to the ‘most attractive table setting’ to a ‘perfect complexion’ to the ‘latest fashion’. So, if the trend is going a certain way, we as humans often have the tendency to just want to follow the herd. By doing that we are being interesting, and by following the latest trends set an example to others. Or do we?

One thing as I write which springs to mind is all the fuss over here recently about a young social influencer who said some quite prolific things about the ‘do’s and don’ts for Corona rules’. This is a young woman followed by more than a million people. She appeared on television and was literally lost for words when asked to explain. Of course, she couldn’t say why she had suggested such stupid things. And all that just to be a social influencer! It ended up with her having to make a public apology and thus subject herself to the comments of others, some of which were quite vicious.

This is exactly what I mean when I think of the words ‘think before you speak’ or post in this case. Surely even the simplest of people realize that when you are being followed by many people on social media, they then think it’s smart, or right to agree with you and follow what you say. Remember what I said about sheep and following the herd. You have to ask yourself simply if you agree or not and if not, do not follow or waste your time making a comment.

Now social media influencers seem to have more than 24 hours in a day and post a huge amount about their daily lives, from food to fashion, about sessions in the gym, how big their muscular body looks (and thus posting photos which are fodder for the scammers) and so it goes on.

Ask yourself why? Why do you do this? Do you seriously think that people have nothing else to do than follow others? Isn’t it much more important to put your own ‘stamp’ on things? You can agree with the good ones for sure, but not just follow the rubbish just for the sake of keeping up. Or do you? It’s something to think about isn’t it?

This week I just happened to read one of the best posts I have seen in a long time from Michelle Obama, talking about the moment when she and Barack left the White House and had to welcome the Trumps in. For those of you who read it too, it was a good piece and inspiring for others. Posts like this are worth reading. Also posts about things that interest you personally too. But all the rest of the garbage? Come on, get on with something more productive. (You can find this speech on her Instagram account).

Be more selective, I try to do that every day and at the end of this year I will clear all the posts from my own Instagram account and begin again, with a fresh clean slate for 2021. The past is behind me now and I don’t need a record number of either posts, followers or to be an influencer either. Just to share things, that is fine but in moderation. I don’t need to be sharing my entire life with people I don’t even know. And I am strict on that score too, if I see that anyone is following me who I don’t know personally they get blocked and deleted.

It is the only way and social media people who keep complaining about the number of fake accounts they have, in other words, people who have made accounts using their countless number of stories, photos and posts, then the simple solution is to stop posting so much. Especially when it concerns private things, like photos made in your own home. It’s just my advice, not that I expect them to either stop or do it differently, the only thing I can hope to achieve is that for all of you who read my words. Think again! Of course, it’s ok to share one or two things, but keep it general. As long as the world is full of fakes and scammers, is it worth it? Is it a good idea to post literally everything because you are just feeding them with information and the opportunity to then abuse others using your information too!

Which brings me back to the discussion I started talking about at the beginning. The disappointment from the one person that the so-called influencer never reacted to her comments and the one defending the account holder. As much as I am tempted to mention the names, so you can look and see for yourself, I won’t because then I am just following the herd and that is the thing that I do not want to do.

Basically, I think it is a sad fact of life that social media influencers don’t have anything better to do. In this day and age? Surely, they must have. But the point is that it is a huge ego boost for them, the followers, the comments, the numbers and then of course once the ego takes control, then you know you are definitely not following your true dream and goals. Isn’t being just that bit different the most important thing and then also doing meaningful things. Things that are good for your own growth on a physical, emotional, spiritual and mental level. Or do you prefer to waste your time comparing yourself to people who have definitely gone off the path? Be honest with yourself, it is really a load of rubbish, which will not help you in any way. Wanting to either copy or be like them really is irrelevant. Be yourself. You are a unique being and have something so much better to contribute.

Be an influencer with an important message. Be the one to inspire others. Be the one who is empathic and cares. Be the one who is not afraid to be authentic. Be the one who speaks his or her truth. And be the one who dares to follow their own dreams and goals.

Now that is influencing!



Every day when I open my email ‘inbox’ I find a huge amount of ‘astrological emails’ and I mean a lot. And each and every one of them is offering me advice! I never get the opportunity to read them all, as it would probably take me the entire day at least, but some have important messages. So how can you separate the wheat from the chaff? You sort of know instinctively that there is an important message for you somewhere in there! So, what is the meaning? I have written on this subject before, but thought it was time to perhaps do something again … so here goes.

A lot of people may or may not realize that the so-called Natal Chart that every single one of us has, is in fact a very important photo image of the exact moment of birth. If you know all your details, you can search on the internet and go to a site called: www.astro.cafeastrology.com and fill it in.  One important thing to try and add, is the exact time of your birth. Then you will receive a long report about all the aspects of your own personal natal chart. But how to you decipher it all? It’s going to be along very detailed report, which may confuse you totally.

I have been fascinated by stars and planets since I was a child. Like probably everyone does, I read my ‘horoscope’ in most newspapers and magazines on a regular basis. Also, the annual predictions for the year ahead. But normally these are just general comments for a particular zodiac sign, the important information is in your natal chart.

The rising sign in your natal chart (in other words your zodiac sign) is the moment when the sun was rising at the time of your birth. Your sun sign is the birth moment. There are 12 signs in the zodiac wheel, beginning with Aries and ending with Pisces.

But then it is important to see where all the planets were at the time of your birth and in which of the 12 houses of the wheel too. 

To make it easier maybe I should use mine as an example:

I was born in Hampton Court, near to London, England on 20th August at 03.45 am.

My rising sign is Leo, and the sun is the ruling sign of Leo too.

My ascending time (which relates to the exact time of birth) is Leo too

My lunar sign (in which position the moon was at that time) is in Taurus.

But let’s have a look at the meanings of each sign and whether they are fixed, mutable or cardinal signs and what is the ruling element:

Fire Signs:

Aries, Leo and Sagittarius

Earth Signs:

Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn

Air Signs: 

Gemini, Libra and Aquarius

Water Signs:

Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces.

Four of each:

Fixed signs: Taurus (earth), Leo (fire), Scorpio (water) and Aquarius (air). 

Mutable signs: Gemini (air) Virgo (earth), Sagittarius (fire) and Pisces (water).

Cardinal signs are Aries (fire), Cancer (water) , Libra (air) and Capricorn (earth)

Fire Signs: tend to be emotional, passionate, dynamic and often temperamental. Often get angry quickly, but they forgive easily. Adventurers with enormous energy. Physically strong and inspire others. Intelligent, self-aware, creative, idealistic and always ready for action.

Earth Signs: are grounded and people that literally bring ‘others back down to earth’. Conservative, realistic but also very emotional. Connected to material reality and goods. Practical, loyal and steady and stick by people, even in hard times.

Air Signs: rational, social and love communication and relationships with people. Thinkers, friendly, intellectual, communicative and analytical. Love philosophical discussions, social gatherings and good books.

Water Signs: exceptionally emotional and ultra-sensitive. Highly intuitive and can be mysterious. Love profound conversations and intimacy. They rarely do anything openly and always support their loved ones.

The Houses in the Zodiac Wheel:

1st: This literally is all about the ‘firsts’. First impressions, the self, appearance, leadership, new initiatives, fresh beginnings. The sign on the cusp (or starting edge) of this house is referred to as your rising sign or Ascendant. Aries

2nd: Covers everything to do with matters related to your material and physical environment. Taste, smell, sound, touch, sight. Also rules money and Self Esteem. Taurus

3rd: Rules all forms of communication – talking, thinking, gadgets and devices (cell phones, pagers, messengers). Also related to siblings, neighborhoods, travel, libraries, schoolteachers and community affairs. Gemini

4th: Sitting at the ‘bottom of the zodiac wheel’ therefore the ruler or foundation of everything. Including your homes, privacy, basic security, parents, children, parenting abilities and nurturing. Cancer

5th: Governs self-expression, drama, creativity, color, attention, romance, fun and play. Leo

6th : Domain of health and service. Schedules, organization, routines, fitness, diet and exercise, natural and healthy living. Helpfulness and being of service to others. Virgo

7th : Relationships and other people. Governs partnerships, both business and personal and any matters related to relationships in general, like contracts, marriage, business deals. Libra

8th : Mysterious. Ruling birth, death, sex, transformation, mysteries, merged energies, bonding at deep levels. Other people’s property and money (real estate, inheritance, investment). Scorpio

9th :  Higher mind expansion, international and long-distance travel, foreign languages, inspiration, optimism, publishing, broadcasting, universities and higher education. Luck, risk adventure, gambling, region, philosophy, morals and ethics. Sagittarius

10th : At the top of the chart and most public part of the chart. Governing structures, corporations, tradition, public image, fame, honors, achievements, awards, boundaries, rules, discipline, authority, fathers. The cusp or edge is also referred to as the Midheaven. Career. Capricorn

11th : Teams, friendships, groups, society, technology, video and electronic media, networking, social justice, rebellion and humanitarian causes. Originality, eccentric, sudden events, surprises, inventions, astronomy, science fiction and anything futuristic. Aquarius

12th : Endings. Final stages of a project, tying up the loose ends, completions, afterlife, old age and surrender. Separation from society, institutions, hospitals, jails, hidden agendas and secret enemies. Ruling the imagination, creativity, arts, film, dance, poetry, journals and the subconscious mind. Pisces

Confused? Either go back or read on :-

So, on the natal chart, your picture photo moment of arrival, the planets are positioned in houses. Some have one or two, others may be empty. But according to the planet and its meaning it has a ‘highlight’ effect on your personality and life path… 

The Planets: There are of course 12! Listed in proximity to the Sun: Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Ceres, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, Pluto, Chiron and not forgetting the Moon.

Just so that you aren’t confused, the sun is not strictly a planet, it is a star undergoing evolution. Other planets circulate the sun in the solar system.

However, the so-called inner planets: Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars and Venus – they all move quickly through the zodiac wheel. Affecting your day-to-day moods, and habits.

The outer planets: Jupiter, Saturn, Neptune, Uranus and Pluto. Move slowly changing signs everyone to fifteen years. As a result, they shape the bigger trends in your life. Neptune, Uranus and Pluto orbit so slowly that they are said to shape entire generations.

So, what are the key words for each one:

Sun                  your basic personality                      every month

Moon              moods and emotions                         every 2-3 days

Mercury         mind and communication               every 3 – 4 weeks

Venue             love and attraction                            every 4-5 weeks

Mars               drive and energy                                every 6-7 weeks

Jupiter            luck, growth and wisdom                every 12-13 months

Saturn            discipline, fears and challenges      every 2-3 years

Uranus           change and originality                      every 7 years

Neptune         dreams and healing                           every 10-12 years

Pluto               power and transformation               every 12-15 years

So, here is the meaning about what happens when two or more planets are within 0 degrees to each other in the zodiac wheel. It is then called:  a conjunction. If they are 60-degrees apart then it’s a sextile, two planets that are 180 degrees apart are an opposite. There are of course 360 degrees in the wheel.

Astrology is literally ‘tracking’ the movement of the relationships of the planets and other celestial bodies. Words like trine, square, aspects, conjunctions, and opposition are common terms in astrology. But what do they mean?

Basically, it describes the angles the planets form to one another across the wheel. As planets move across the sky, each angle means something different.  Whilst each planet has a meaning (see above), the way that they can affect us is, in which sign they are located at any given time. As well as the relationships they form with others.

Of the five major aspects some are considered hard and others soft. Easy aspects are sextile and trine. A conjunction is generally aligned into another category or a strong potential for it to go either way, depending on the direction of the planet itself. A planet going retrograde (and this happens a lot) means it is going backward. Some trines can be helpful, others not.

But the aspects are essential to predict or interpret astrology. They can totally change or influence the meaning of a planetary placement. We have also to look at how they blend with other planetary energies. Two compatible planets are cozy, or they can challenge each other and be harsh in a square. As an example, Venus is the planet or love and generally associated with positive qualities, but if it is a ‘difficult’ aspect with another planet like Saturn for example it can cause a lot of upset in our love lives.

There are so many factors to consider it is really too much for this blog and it was never written to aspire to a ‘quick course’ in astrology. 


A conjunction is when two planets link up together in the same sign. They share their energy. If they get along, it’s a high potential, if not, then a heavier more challenging aspect occurs.

Sextile is fun, full of good vibrations and positive. A friendly ‘flirty’ aspect between signs, 60 degrees apart. Often between fire and air signs, or earth and water signs. Sunshine, happy situations, and a nice break from stress. But a downside is not a major energy aspect for don’t expect a major shift. 

It’s all about ease and compatibility. Not too much drama.

A trine (120-degree angle) is generally considered the best and most auspicious aspect, bringing luck, harmony and major synchronicity. An understanding of the elements. A trine happens when planets are in the same elements (fire, earth, air or water). When this happens, they understand each other’s motives making the energy much easier to work with than against. Positive aspects with positive outcomes.

Square: a bit of a cosmic drama. Just like the shape of the square itself. An intense aspect that often dictates action. They show that work is needed to produce a favored outcome. 

Opposition: When planets are directly opposite one another (180 degrees). Often in this case planets are literally ‘butting heads’. Even though they are as far apart as they can be in the wheel itself, it is difficult to find harmony. Wants or needs may seem polar. But you probably remember the famous saying: ‘opposites attract’? It is sort of seeking a balance between the energy of the planets opposite and trying to work together. In simple terms then making an opposition run smoothly. Synergy, two opposites complimenting each other.

Astrology is an immense subject and people study it for years. This is just a simple sampler for the basic terms and meanings. But as everything is moving, its continually changing. Each and every day. The only stable moment is your birth moment, which is a photo shot of that exact moment in the celestial heavens. It forms your basic character and you know your strengths and weaknesses.

I could write on and on, but it was not really my intention. I started all this by talking about my email inbox and now you probably know why it’s almost impossible to read everything.

This is my natal chart and you can get yours too, with the link I gave in the beginning. Its free and will give you a good insight into who you are and why you are hear. And more importantly: what you came here to do!


I hope this gives you a better insight into interpretating your daily horoscope or even the realization of why you behave or present yourself in a certain way. I highly recommend an astrologist, who I do actually read in all my pile and that is Astro Butterfly.  You can google her easily and subscribe to her newsletters and insights. This is the one that resonates the most with me. (www.astrobutterfly.com)

Thanks to the mentioned internet sites and images Google. Natal chart image is personal.


Never in my entire life have I witnessed such a fiasco in the recent US Elections. It is a very complicated and an almost incomprehendible system. How first of all the voting takes place and secondly how the said votes are counted and what it means? Who is the winner and who is the loser? The entire world had a week of tension, people were working flat out to count the votes and news reporters and television presenters going days without sleep to finally come up with the ‘Breaking News’ who would become the 46th President of the United States of America. Before I go on, 4 and 6 is 10 which goes down to 1 and the meaning of 1 is – NEW BEGINNINGS! 

As far as Donald Trump is concerned, I personally had my own thoughts right from the word go about whether or not he would be a capable President … we all did and I think I can rightly say, he shocked the world many times with his comments and Tweets. We had never seen such an active President on Twitter before. People who stood in his way were ‘fired’ and he struggled. Even though many will say, he was the first President who did not send the country to war, he did creative a lot of divide between the people. The racism was just over the top. And in the end, he was not granted a second term of office, which basically means that ‘the people’ had lost faith in him and did not want another 4 dramatic years. American economy is better than ever for sure, but he did away with things like ‘Obama Care’ depriving all the US citizens, the right to have health care, which is a big necessity in the USA. The costs for medical care are sky high and many do not get the benefit purely because they cannot afford it. What a crazy thought is that, with the world economy that the biggest world power, has citizens who cannot afford the basic cost of care of their health. The one thing money cannot buy – good health.

But between the dark confusing days, there was suddenly a glimmer of hope. If Joe Biden will be a good President, we will have to wait and see, but my eyes are on the Vice President who is really going to bring a big sweeping change into the stuffy corridors in the White House. The speeches were uplifting and suddenly you saw a divided nation find their pride again and the desire to work together.  And that is the best thing that could happen. A bright ray of hope appeared and then it’s going to be working together instead of constantly the egoistic divide. The judgement that some races or beliefs are better than others. That is complete nonsense and we all know it. Religion has been the force behind the problems across the entire planet for centuries and isn’t it about time to move forward now?

I remember as a child the assassination of President John F Kennedy. I can recall the exact moment. It was on a Friday and I had been to ‘Brownies’ and when my father came to collect me that November evening, he told me on the way home. It did not mean much to me at the time, yes, I knew the name, but that the world would be so shocked, that did not register at all in my young mind. But I know every single person reading this blog will remember that moment too.  

We never ever were told the entire truth about the reasons why were we?

Many presidents have come and gone in the meantime, all of whom have left their mark on the history of the United States. Some have been big influencers others have been a ‘real pain in the neck’. It’s a powerful job and all you fans of ‘House of Cards’ will have seen what goes on behind the scenes. It may be fictional, but I think there was a lot of truth.

American politics is tough, you have to watch your back all the time. Everyone may seem genuine, but many are only out for their own gain.  

Let’s hope that Joe Biden and Kamala Harris bring new light into an old institution. That they will find the means and the ways to unite a very divided nation once more.

We have had all the emotions this election, despair, anger, disbelief, fake news, miscounting votes and so the sad story continued, until just a simple comparison of numbers showed that there was no doubt anymore that there was a new President.

Will we now be inundated with stories on the news of Trump filing a succession of lawsuits: to my mind he would be much more dignified and respected if he conceded his defeat gracefully. Don’t you agree?

Americans could finally rest yesterday evening, knowing that a very important thing occurred, there was Hope. Hope to do it all differently. Hope to do everything better. Hope to unite instead of divide. Hope to love one another. 

That is all that is needed. And now dear Americans, the rest is up to you: to work together now and put all differences into the past. You can do it!


31st October 2020. It’s Halloween everyone and it is going to be a bit different this year. With all the lockdowns and Corona rules and regulations across the world, then as I said – different.

The actual meaning of Hallow e’en or ‘All Hallows’ dates back to ancient times. It is the evening before All Saint’s Day (1st November). It originates from the old Keltic calendar when the year began on the 1st November, so in fact Halloween was a sort of New Year’s Eve. The harvest was gathered and the seeds for sowing next year were ready. So, after a long year, it was time for a day off. The Celtic New Year (or Samhain) was originally an Irish word for the month of November.

This day was celebrated in England, by the Celts and they believed this was the evening when all the ghosts of people who had died, came back to visit their families and tried to take over someone’s body who was still living, for the coming new year. A bit creepy and it made me think of the famous film ‘Ghost’. To attract the ghosts to rise up and visit, people put out food at their doors. But to scare away the angry ghosts, people made masks. When the Romans invaded England, they mixed the old Celtic traditions with their own. In the 9th Century when Christianism crossed the seas and mixed with many other cultures. People began to dress up and offered people special bread made with currants and raisins. With each bread, they said prayers to the ones who had passed away in each family. To not only help them on their ascension to heaven but this may also have been the origin of the now famous ‘trick or treat’.

Halloween is a major happening mainly in the USA. People buy costumes, decorate their gardens with spooky things, like skeletons, spiders with sticky webs, hollowed out pumpkins with scary faces which were originally called ‘Jack o’ Lanterns’. During the majority of the 20th Century this was essentially a feast for children. Dressing up and going from door to door for tricks or treats. The whole idea being to scare the person who opened their door. And hoping that they had an extensive tray full of sweets to choose from. By the end of the evening, the bag would hopefully be full !

Recently this has become a feast for young and old and adults love to dress up too! Have parades and Halloween parties. Scaring people was the theme and the costumes and make up got more and more adventurous.

I can remember as a child growing up in England that we would often decorate our garage and have a party there with all the local kids. Light tea-lights and spend days hollowing out the biggest pumpkin we could find and making a scary face. Hang wool to make spiders webs. It was all good innocent fun, but now things have taken on a much bigger proportion, certainly in the USA. And then of course there was Bonfire Night to follow on the 5th November with fires in the garden and fireworks. This really originated from Guy Fawkes and the fact that he tried to blow up the Houses of Parliament in London, with gunpowder.

It is sad this year that a fun feast for children is going to be so restricted by the current world situation and that we all have to take care still to stop the spreading of this virus.

But people will always be inventive and I saw on the television that people in the USA had made special long sticks to give children their treats if they came to the door. What will happen tonight I don’t know, seeing as there are now curfews and the stopping of crowds on the streets in large number.

But Happy Halloween everyone wherever you are in the world today. Keep strong and Keep Safe.

And a little extra this year: It’s a full moon! The first Full Moon on Fixed Earth since 1944 at Halloween

Images: Google


The idea for this blog came up in my mind a couple of days ago. A very popular satirical TV-presenter, Arjen Lubach, talked about ‘fantasy nets’ and algorithms on the internet. He makes the show amusing and funny, but there is so much truth in what he is saying. The subject sort of stayed in my mind. I will tell you why.

Have you ever noticed if you look something up on internet that your social media, Instagram and Facebook suddenly starts to show advertisements on exactly the things you were looking up? It doesn’t matter really what the subject is, from Christmas baubles to gardens sheds, but each and every advertisement you then see, draws your attention to that. This is because of the algorithms that Facebook (the owner of Instagram too) then bombard you with these advertisements. On that score let’s look at another angle.

How many people do you know in your own circles with an Instagram account? Virtually everyone I suspect. I will take my own account as an example: I started mine, not to post things daily about what I am having for breakfast, what I am wearing, if I am at the hairdressers or having my nails done, but more to ‘shout out’ things about, for instance, the blogs I am writing, or the books I publish. As my website is registered and protected then by copyright, it’s not really anything more that drawing it to peoples’ attention. I hardly ever publish a photo about me personally, my family, my home, much more photos of nature, of my dog or cat.

But there are other types of accounts which are so much different. First of all, we have the ‘blue tick verified’ accounts which usually belong to real influencers, like movie stars, television personalities, artists and such like and the very few who get awarded this verification because they have so many followers. 

And then there are those who are the so-called influencers. Usually very good-looking women or men, who have many followers, who are actually people they do not even know, but more the people who like the photos. Some of the photos are ones that I would never in my wildest dreams think of publishing, like for the men, naked to the waist posing in their boxer shorts, the women flouting their peachy bums or huge boobs. Anything to get attention and even more followers. Hoorah, they get thousands of views and hundreds of comments. The comments are usually in my opinion, not even worth reading, more hearts, flames of fire, kisses etc. etc.

And you get to know every single detail of their life from morning to night. Their car, their home, the food they eat, the drinks they have with friends, it’s an ongoing daily account about their lives. All for the fans! But what is the point I ask myself? What do you hope to gain? Do you think that you are popular because you get so many likes? From people you don’t even know. Come on wake up!

My golden rule as far as social media is concerned, is that the moment I see someone is following me, and I don’t know them personally I am not really interested, and the reason why is, that a lot of the accounts are actually fakes and used by scammers. Now those of you who read my blogs regularly know that I have written a lot about this subject. The way to tell if the accounts are fake or not is usually, they post a lot of photos which have the same date and they are following many, but few follow them. This is the moment to take care and before you add them into your circles, which gives them access to all your photos too: ask yourself this one simple question: do I know them personally or not? If not, then just block. Every single day I see accounts on Instagram that are using the photos of people who are more well known, where photos have been stolen and they have created a fake identity, usually the same name, but the placing of the letters just slightly different order because they know people will just be taken in by it. After all the so-called influencers which I mentioned above, probably accept literally everyone who follows them because that is why they have an account in the first place.

FAKE is a trending word right now. We have fake news, fake profiles, fake information and fantasy nets which all lure us into one thing: ‘fear’. And we all know that when people are fearful, it creates power for those who are doing it.

What is the point really pretending to be a fake? What do you hope to gain from it? Aren’t you worth so much more when you are your real authentic self? Don’t you prefer to have friends who appreciate you for who you really are. Would you really be happier in circles with genuine people or in ever increasing circles with fakes? It is something to think about isn’t it?

I have some more words on this subject but before I go any further, let’s look at the real definition: (and this in a big one!)

FAKE (an adjective)

Not genuine. An imitation. A counterfeit. Claiming to be something that you are not. A forgery. A sham. A person who falsely claims something. To pretend to feel or have an emotion, illness or injury. A jealous concern. Pretend to make an event happen. To trick or deceive someone 

And now some words for my friend, who just by chance brought this subject up too:

I came to realize that we have a lot of fake people in this world who pretend to be good and have good intentions, but in actual fact their intentions are really bad.

Fake is definitely a trending topic I agree at the moment and I have said so in the beginning of this blog.

You just have to be the government of yourself and follow your heart. You don’t have to do what someone said or follow the words of men. Some are literally devils in the form of angels.

Absolutely and I can think of many examples.

Fake is the topic at the moment I feel and there is so much which is fake, news, profiles, social media.

Yes, and the reason for this blog and sharing our thoughts again in a dialogue.

These people are basically evil and want to profit from others. They go literally to all lengths to bring another into discredit. Everyone always has something to say about everything when it concerns another person. Jealousy is a big issue and often the cause.

It’s not about who is real to your face. It is about who stays real behind your back

Very true and probably you can count these people literally on one hand.

I don’t hate my hater’s, but I will never ever surround myself with negativity. I am better than that.

True friends will not. It is always best, in my opinion to rise up above their negativity. Show you are better and even that you do not ‘care’.

It is better you speak your truth even if you voice shakes.

And no matter how scared you are of being rejected, which everyone is.

Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. If you don’t have any problems, you do not get any seeds

Exactly, you can only reap what you sow.

The truth requires less stress and energy than trying to cover up one’s lies. Some people are real, some people are good. Some people are fake and some people are good at being fake. The point is who do you want to be? Not what people want to see.

I always think that lies are comparable to a spiders’ web you get so caught up in the lies that it is very hard to find your way out to the truth.

No one in this world is pure or perfect. If you avoid people for their little mistakes, you will always be alone. So, judge less and love more!

Love is what the entire world needs so desperately. We all need it. We all crave it!

When you are honest from the beginning you don’t have to lie to cover up the lie you already told. Honesty is always the best policy. Don’t be afraid to show the real YOU. If people don’t like it, sorry honey it’s your loss.

Absolutely. It is so much more important to be the real you than to pose as a fake merely for popularity. It is not good for your conscience. Can you literally go to bed at night and sleep peacefully, if you have been putting yourself forward as a fake?

I would rather go on in life being me and imperfect than striving to be what someone else wants.

That to me is an important statement. We may make mistakes, no one has ever said we have to be perfect. Is there really someone out there who is? I would rather have friends and contacts who are authentic than fakes just for popularity. You?

Our true self is being who we are. Beauty is being the best possible version of yourself on the inside and on the outside

And it is perfectly OK to be vulnerable and show your true colors.

Hurt me with the truth. But never comfort me with a lie.


I would rather be alone than surround myself with a fake environment. 

From the words about the true meaning of fake it is virtually about deception. Trying to be something which you are not. What is the point? Does it make you a better person?

True friends say good things behind your back and bad things to your face.

Well they do and the reason is that they love you. You are important to them and they do this when they have your best interests at heart too. That is a true friend.

Speak the truth even if your voice trembles, don’t let anyone judge you by your mistakes .. they just don’t know what it takes.

No, they don’t. They do not understand that we are moving away from ‘duality and competition’. Working towards the bigger, better picture. And doing that together.

Always speak how you really feel and never be sorry for being real. I would rather be despised for my character than liked for my lack of it.

I think listening to your own inner voice is important. You know who you are. You know what your values are. If others cannot see that, it’s their problem.

I am too lazy to be fake. Being real takes a lot less effort. I don’t have to do anything apart from be myself.

It is definitely more worthwhile to be a genuine person than a fake. Being fake is just stealing or taking on a dishonest identity. Fakes are lazy, and by that I mean, they steal other’s images, other people’s identity. Always thinking they are better.

Sometimes the things we say sarcastically, are what we are really thinking deep down. Always be yourself despite what other’s think. If you are not selling the real you to people you are selling yourself short.

Personally, I have no admiration for sarcasm. It is trying to be too clever to hide your own shortcomings. It hurts other people, there is no love really in sarcasm. And the big question: why would you choose to knowingly undersell yourself? That baffles me totally.

(Thank you to my friend for his inspiration during this dialogue, we did that live yesterday).

So, I hope reading through, you have more or less come to the conclusion that being a fake or using something fake is really not right and actually quite pathetic. Why would you do this? Wouldn’t you want to be seen as someone genuine and true. Someone who speaks their truth, listens to your truth and has a genuine interest for you personally. Or do you want to go through life as a ‘poser’ with all your followers and fans, who are virtually people you don’t even know. Tell me what the value is in that then? Absolutely none. Does it make you better than the rest? No it doesn’t because it is not real.

You will be much more appreciated and loved if you portray yourself for the person you really are. The true authentic you is worth so much more than a fake!

The clocks go back this weekend as we step into wintertime, in the Northern Hemisphere and into the summer in the southern. Why not take that extra time to look at your own social media accounts, tidy them up and maybe be more critical about what you post from now on and who you follow and who follows you?

I can guarantee you will be surprised, if not horrified.

Happy Weekend everyone.

Special thanks again to my friend for his contribution, which is always hugely appreciated.

Images: Google


Yesterday a very nice dialogue happened between me and my very talented ‘writer friend’ so we decided to try something different in this blog, to put down our discussion into words: And the theme is ‘Never Give Up’. Good advice and often hard for many people to follow because often failures make you want to do exactly that. So, how do you find the motivation to keep going, no matter what comes across your path. We are all walking a path, but all our paths are different. They lead in many directions. People have different dreams, desires and use their own special talents along the way. That is perfect and everything is always going according to plan for each and every one of us:

So, hope you will like this new format and new idea. His words are in italics as usual.

I think you will agree, a man who gives amazing inspiration to all of us. It gives me great pleasure to share my website platform with him. Thank you, my friend for your contribution, everyone is enjoying ‘our blogs’ together!

To continue on from the previous blog published on Sunday 18th October 2020 …. (entitled What does it mean to set goals, Realize your Ambitions, Manifest your Dreams?)

 Just because something seems hard to obtain doesn’t mean you should give up. Instead you should make more effort and work hard to achieve it.

I agree entirely but often people don’t want to make the effort. It’s because some things have become too easy. To me hard work sounds something more understandable from generations back, when hard work meant hard labor. Literally.

 Don’t’ reduce your efforts just because you missed the target, nothing great comes simple Steady your aim and train harder.

There is nothing wrong with missing the target, succeeding first time is often just ‘beginners’ luck’, but it is those who are strong, physically, mentally and emotionally who will do as you say.

 Some people will always prefer to see you down and lower but use that to motivate yourself to working harder and growing better.

Unfortunately, it’s a fact of life and this is mostly to do with jealously that people will gloat when you fail and are unsuccessful. It sort of brings you down to their own level of failure. But it is definitely then the motivation to try again and persevere.

 If you feel like giving up, remember that you will accomplish nothing by doing so. Keep it moving and never give up.

This is so important I feel, because giving up is just an easy escape. You don’t feel good about yourself for actually giving up and the idea to keep moving whatever happens, is absolutely right.

 I have failed countless times and still kept going. It’s because I have learned that the more times I fall, the more I will learn.

Don’t you think that everyone will agree with you on this? We have all failed and from those mistakes made we have learned the most. Failing is just a single physical action but being brave to get up once more and try again, that is strength.

 Keep the faith. Keep working hard and great things will happen.

Agree, always having faith in your own dreams is very important. If you don’t have that, no one else will see your greatness. It is up to all of us to be true to ourselves and not just be sheep following the herd. And to keep your own mind about your goals without being influenced by others.

 Great victory can follow a shocking defeat if there is positive persistence in the    pursuance. Never say never. Keep the hope alive.

It is a very important thing in life to have hope. Never lose hope. It is the key to finding success. And that word ‘never’ is really a figment of imagination. Everything is possible if you set your mind right.

 If you fall, rise up and shake off the dust and try again.

I always find that if I fall and that often happens, literally physically, it is the universe telling me that something is not quite right, or I am being stopped to reflect.  Stopped in my tracks for a reason and it’s important to trust that the reason in the end is, for your better good.

 Never give up and never stop trying to achieve the goals and the dreams that you  know you deserve.

Giving up is the easy way out. Stopping to try to then follow your goals, also wrong. You know what you want and what you deserve for the effort you will take. It is your dream or dreams and you should be true to yourself and go for it one hundred percent. No one else will do it for you.

 If you are doing good work, don’t stop. Press on and keep working, no matter what others say or how much they discourage you.

It is very easy to be discouraged in these strange times as we all basically have a fear for rejection. People will always have something to say about everything other people do. It’s just human nature. It is up to you whether you take notice of it, or, make the choice to stay centered and true to yourself.

In life, you never know what kind of result you will get until you try your best and see to it until the end.

Absolutely and often the whole process is comparable to a journey. That is the best part, the destination is important too, but the learning comes during the journey. Trying your best is always the option you should choose, because no one ever got anywhere doing nothing.

No matter how hard I try, life just won’t let me get want without trying. But I won’t give up.

I think this is a very big part of your character and the reason why a lot of people look up to you, as you have proved so many times that you don’t give up. It’s a very admirable quality

 No matter how many times you fail, you are not a failure until you quit trying.

Just quitting is like running away. Away from the truth. Failing is not bad, failing is in fact good. It’s frustrating at the time, but true will power pushes you to go on. Its what people have been doing for centuries, try, try and try again. A worthy motto, but it takes guts to do that.

Winners lose much more often than losers. So, if you keep losing but you are still            trying so just keep it up! You are right on track.

It is very easy to become discouraged when you lose, but often a good idea to summarize what you have actually lost. Is it that important when you look back? You cannot change it, or the past, just merely look at the imprint you left behind, learn by it and move on in a forward’s direction. The path is clear, but there can be not only obstacles, but many saboteurs who try their utmost to distract you and lead you off course.

Limits are just a state of mind, you can always push yourself to do better, no matter what the cost might be. Keep going at it and you will succeed.

Yes, limits are something you set upon yourself. The removal of same, pushes you on in fact to do better, isn’t then the cost irrelevant? The fact that you try is so much more important. And if you keep going, you definitely succeed. Good advice.

You have a choice. You can throw in the towel or you can use it to wipe the sweat off your face.

Oh, how easy is it in fact to just chuck in the towel and many do that. You do have a choice, always and stick to it or them.

Never quit. If you stumble get back up. What happened yesterday no longer matters. Today is another day so get back on course and move closer to your dreams and  goals. You can do it!

I think it is hard for a lot of people to realize that what happened yesterday is the past. You cannot change it; you cannot literally walk back into yesterday and do it better. We live very much in the here and now, what tomorrow will bring we don’t know. So even when things go wrong, make a choice and do it differently. Dreams and goals are the most important things in life. You have to have them, if you don’t you just wander around in every increasing circles. Of course, you can do it if you have the right mind-set. Very important! After all it is your dream and your goal.

It’s not important to achieve everything at first or in one go. But it is extremely vital to make positive progress in reasonable time.

I think this is very true. People get easily disheartened when it does not al come together immediately. You can sort of compare it to a large puzzle. All the pieces are on the table. You pick up the first one and perhaps make the corners first. As you progress the picture becomes clearer until you create your own masterpiece.

Innovation is repeated failure until something works.

Absolutely and it will always be that way.

Don’t work until you get it right. Work until you get it wrong.

I think maybe some people will have difficulty relating to this, because their brain is telling them to get it right. The whole point here is that the continued work, even if you get it wrong, is the learning process.

Life is like a sport, facing obstacles and learning from them. Every time we fall, we get  back up and try again until we finish what has been started! We try and try never to quit, because what is life without trying?

Again, I agree, because life becomes more worthwhile because you try and are eventually rewarded for your efforts. In other words, you realize your own dream or goal.

Life may challenge you from the worst case ever. But don’t be afraid of fighting what’s for you and what’s for the better.

Life has always been and always will be a challenge. That is if you want to make something of your life, and motivated people do, then often you need to fight. Fight for the right things. The whole point is that you remain true to yourself. Dare to be different. Dare to do things others may scorn or think you are stupid for trying. Who says so?  It is usually a mirror of their own shortcomings or lack of willpower. Just because one fails, not everyone has to.

Sometimes I act like I have given up, but inside me, I am just warming up!

The people who know you personally will definitely agree with this. There is so much power in you it is almost (un)believable. You have such a strong willpower, it’s admirable. So just keep warming up, it’s a good example for many. Acting as you well know is merely playing a role on  the stage of a production, called: Life.

Never let any hurdles big or small in life, trip you up and stop you from achieving your goals in life.

When I think of hurdles I think back to my schooldays, running up and down gravel tracks and jumping across obstacles. Some fell, some remained standing. Was there any point in going back and picking up the ones that had fallen? Not really, the race was actually over anyway. But you can think about why they fell. Did you not jump high enough, were you actually satisfied and did not try harder? Looking back is fine, but don’t allow it to influence your future too much.

Keep trying your chances, you never know which will yield the best result.

I really love the word ‘change’ because it is so similar to the word ‘chance’. One letter in actual fact. Chances are gifts offered along your way, it’s your choice that makes the best or the worst result. Just make sure your choice is the right one, for you. It is all about you. Take a chance.

Too many people use being scared as an excuse for not trying. You may fail, try   anyway. That is how you grow. That is how you do incredible things.

Exactly and there are many examples of people who did do incredible things because they kept on trying. Like inventions and this is not about current days things, but inventions like the wheel for example. A person invented it and the reward was great for all of us. We cannot think of life now without a wheel. Actually, the symbolism of the wheel is like a circle, that keeps going around and around, as effort is made.

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.

Yes, similar to what I said to your last comment. A great example of this and something that is very hard to even comprehend to this day is how ancient civilizations in Egypt actually managed without cranes or other mechanical devices to build the pyramids. A thing we have been asking ourselves for thousands of years and then to get them exactly in alignment with the star constellation of Orion. Maybe because they were less distracted by unimportant issues and lived their lives intuitively.

In the business world everyone is paid in two coins: Cash and experience. Take the  experience first, the cash will come later.

I have always thought and said to you several times that money is just energy. It is a way of exchange. Exchanging something for something else from another. It does not make you a better man for sure (and I am generalizing here, so don’t take is personally), how many millions you have on your bank account. Experience is worth so much more than cash. We all need cash to survive for sure, but how much do we really need to realize our dreams. People seemed to have lost all perspective on this score. It is no longer important how big your house is, how flash your car is, how good your job is, how many holidays you go on every year. That is just the outer impression, it’s what is on the inside that counts.

For me the most fun is change or growth. There are definitely elements of both that I Iike. Launching a business is kind of like a motorboat, you can go very quickly and turn fast.

Ah, men and the need for speed! Motivation to move. Motivation to do something that turns into a project and eventually a business. It was the pleasure doing it rather than the completion of the job.

Nothing works better than just improving your product.

Of course, always room for improvement in all walks of life.

 If you have knowledge let others light their candles in it.

I like this comment very much. One of the quotes I often think about is comparing ourselves to a lighthouse. We don’t have to go running around islands looking for boats; it is our job to stand still and provide the light for others. It is a slightly different way than you said it but comes down to the same. If I have knowledge isn’t it so much more rewarding to share. That is a problem in the world right now, people want to create their own little islands of importance. They have not yet realized that working together, often with completely opposites, brings something even better. But there are always ‘givers’ and ‘receivers’. It is the best if you can create a happy medium. Give and Receive. That is balance. The one who always gives will soon be left with nothing. The same applies to those who only receive, they become greedy, but do they actually need it?

Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.

I am sure many great leaders will agree with you totally on this one!

As you start your journey the first thing you should do is throw away the store-bought  map and begin to draw your own.

I love this comment because as I mentioned earlier there are many paths, which maybe lead in the same direction, but each and every one in life is personal. My path is my path. Your path is your path. They may cross and run parallel for a long time, which is good and rewarding, but in the end, it is absolutely about drawing your own map. Always!

I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. It’s the business of little minds to shrink, but those whose heart is firm and who’s conscious approves their conduct, will pursue their principles until  death.

Very true. But it takes a broad-minded person to be able to actually smile. Many don’t they are afraid of what other will say about their so-called failure or distress, thinking that they are the lessor ones. I agree that listening to your own heart is the purest voice you will hear. If your conscious says ‘yes’ deep within (that gut feeling) you know you are doing the right things, making the right choices. Personally, I don’t see death in the way many others see it, and this is a long subject. I always believe and always have, that we merely leave our physical body behind and that our soul lives on endlessly. It is not an easy thing to believe, because people are afraid to die. But to me it is just the completion of a circle which we call life. One circle ends and another begins. Like in the seasons in nature. Like a new year following on another. It has always been this way. The Circle of Life.

The last 10 % it takes to launch something takes as much energy as the first 90%.

Yes, agree but many people are so entirely focused on the end result that they fail to see all the things they learn (your words the 90%). It is the energy to get a project started. Getting your ideas and turning them into something constructively. That takes effort and also a lot of belief in yourself.

Being able to touch so many people through my businesses and make money while doing it, is a huge blessing.

Of course, inspiring others is important. The money less, I think. The blessing comes when you realize that you have achieved your dream or goal (or at least one of them). We all have more than one.

Always make a total effort even when all the odds are against you.

Yes, effort at the beginning so much more rewarding really than the end result. Even though the end result is satisfying and encourages you to go on and do more.

 The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.

The extraordinary is your belief that miracles can actually happen when you truly set your mind and your heart to achieve something great. The extra effort on the journey teaches you so much. Ordinary is easy, it’s like sitting back and doing nothing. Extraordinary is so much more exciting.

Don’t let winning make you soft. Don’t let losing make you quit. Don’t let your    teammates down in any situation.

To me it’s giving everything you have got and much more too. The ‘winning’ moment is literally a moment and so easy to then sit back and be complacent. And I so agree about working in teams. Working in synergy with one another. Another friend of mine always talks about the great WE compared to the great I. Which one do you choose?

There is no substitute for hard work, 23 or 24 hours a day. And there is no substitute for patience and acceptance.

Not working hard is complacency. Letting others make the effort. Do you think the satisfaction is then great? No, it isn’t because it is not your effort. Patience is not an easy virtue as everyone is in such a hurry these days. By accepting that great things often take longer because you need to learn more is a much greater substitute. 

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking   your complex, overwhelming tasks into smaller manageable tasks and then starting on the first one.

Very similar I think to making your own map. I know this well, being a writer. When an idea about a book first comes into your mind (the inspiration) it is good to make a sort of backbone of a plan about what it will be about. In other words, set the stage, make the characters, give them all their identity and the weave the story. You cannot write a new chapter until you have read and finished the previous one. A full page has to become a blank one then so that inspiration flows. Sometimes it stops, a writer’s block occurs and I find that this is the time to actually take a short pause, get out into the fresh air. Allow your mind to clear. Often greatest inspiration comes when you least expect it. Never try to put pressure on yourself if you believe that you are only successful whilst you perform. You need to rest too. But I agree, one step at a time, takes you up the ladder. To the finished result.

You must not only aim right but draw the bow with all your might!

Absolutely Robin Hood! Look, aim, draw back the bow and hit the target and if you miss, try again.

I know the price of success: dedication, hard work and unremitting devotion to the things you want to see happen.

A very admirable quality for sure.  Because all the things you say especially the word ‘devotion’ allows you to have clarity (or clear vision about where you want to go)

It is not that things are difficult that we do not dare it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.

Again, this is where I think we have a fear or being rejected by others if we do something a little bit different. It takes courage to stand out. But it’s always the right choice. It’s not important what another thinks when it is about your own personal dream or goal. It is your’s not their’s. To dare takes courage. Be yourself and take the steps you have to get the thing you want. Against all odds, they are merely saboteurs along the way.

There is nothing wrong with staying small. You can do big things with a small team

True dare to jump into the deep even though you don’t know exactly where you will land. It the fact that you dare to jump that counts the most. Just like the journey, more important than the destination. Not easy though, you have to have faith.

Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not.; nothing is  more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not: the world is full of    educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The phrase     ‘press on’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.

Absolutely and I think everyone who reads our words will agree, we are living in completely crazy times and it is then even more important to stay close to your own beliefs. Do not fall into the trap of being taken in by ‘fake news or information’. That is the result of our ever-increasing desire to not miss out on anything. Persistence and determination that is what counts I agree. Press on. Together we can solve anything if you set your mind to it. As a group more than an individual. ‘Many hands make light work’ as they say. Then everyone benefits from the glory of the achievement.

I think this discussion will continue, it’s part of a friendship that has flourished a lot.

One final thought is: great minds think alike. That is so true and what is more rewarding that working as one, in a group for everyone. Then and only then will there be harmony in the world once more.

And our world is merely a tiny little speck in a vast universe.

If you have any questions, please leave a comment in the box.

A special thank you to you, my friend for your continued support and the challenge you then give me to write with you. I so appreciate it.

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We cannot deny it, we are living the in the fast lane, when a lot is expected of us, but at the same time, there are so many rules and regulations across the world at this present time, it’s often hard to ‘see the wood for the trees’. But there is never an excuse for either cancelling, postponing, or even giving up on your goals. These goals are fundamental to you. They make you the person you are. Being an ‘couch potato’ is no longer an option anymore. If you do, life will just pass you by and you will never come close to achieving your dreams. Because we all need dreams, we all need focus and something to aim for. I am handing this blog over once more to my friend, so that he can share his words: –

A person should set his goals as early as he can and devote all his energy and talent to getting there. With enough effort, he may achieve it. Or he may find something that is even more rewarding. But in the end, no matter what the outcome, he will still know that he has been alive.

Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.

People with goals succeed because they know where they are going.

All who have accomplished great things have had a great aim, have fixed their gaze on a goal which was high, one which sometimes seemed impossible.

A goal without a plan is just a wish.

A goal is not always meant to be reached. It often serves simply as something to aim at.

Goals provide the energy source that powers our lives. One of the best ways we can get the most from the energy we have is to focus it. That is what goals can do for us; concentrate our energy.

You must take action now that will move you towards your goals. Develop a sense of urgency in your life.

If you don’t have goals, you will always work for someone who does.

Difficulties increase the nearer we approach the goals.

Whenever you make a mistake and get knocked down by life, don’t look back too long. Mistakes are life’s way of teaching you. Your capacity for occasional blunders is inseparable from your capacity to reach your goals. No one wins them all, and your failures, when they happen, are just part of your growth. Shake off your blunders. How will you know your limits without an occasional failure?

Crystallize your goals. Make a plan for achieving them and set yourself a deadline. Then, with supreme confidence, determination and disregard for obstacles and other people’s criticism, carry out your plan.

Reach high for the stars which lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal. If you want a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.

Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.

You control your future, your destiny. What you think comes about. By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands, your own!

If you are bored with life – you don’t get up every morning with a burning desire to do things – you don’t have enough goals. You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream

Choosing a goal and sticking to it changes everything.

Think before you speak. Plan before you act. Accomplish your goals before it’s too late.

Not every end is the goal. The end of a melody is not its goal and yet if the melody is not reached its end, it has not reached its goal.

You may be closer to accomplishing your goals than you think. Don’t give up.

The more intensely we feel about an idea or a goal, the more assuredly the idea buried deep in our subconscious, will direct us along the path to its fulfilment.

Goals are means to an end, not the ultimate purpose of our lives. They are simply a tool to concentrate our focus and move us in a direction. The only reason we pursue goals is to cause ourselves to explant and grow. Achieving goals by themselves will never make us happy in the long term. It is who you become, as you overcome the obstacles necessary to achieve your goals, that can give you the deepest, most long-lasting sense of fulfilment.

It may take years till you succeed at a goal, but you keep trying and when you earn the victory you will appreciate its value.

Try not to change your goals and plans simply because somebody special came along. Because you’ll never know if they plan to stay forever.

We all die. The plan is not to live forever, the goal is to create something that will.

Dreaming is wonderful, goal setting is crucial, but action is supreme. To make something great happen you must get busy and make it happen!

This is so true isn’t it? I have been writing virtually all my life, but I could not have said it any better. That is why I share it with you all my readers, for that reason, it is so good and I am more than happy to give this person ‘a platform’ for their words too. After all, synergy is all about sharing. I will not be able to change the world on my own, neither will he, but working together, now that is important and therefore creating synergy. We need that to survive, we need to work together instead of alone. Isn’t this the best way? 

Synergy is an important word: so, I think I will quote from the Oxford English Dictionary what it really means:

‘The interaction or co-operation of two of more organizations or people, substances or other agents to produce a combined effect, great than the sum of their separate effects.’ 

This word finds its origin in the Greek word: ‘sunergos ‘working’ from sun and ‘ergon’ from ‘working together’.

And I so agree with the words above. I sincerely hope that I have made some effort during my own life to achieve the things I dream about. You don’t have to be good at everything. Some people use words, others use music or art, others act roles, but it is all talent. Shared talent for one another. Everyone has the right to dream no matter where you live in the world. No matter your color, race or creed. 

Remind yourself, dream your dream, set your goals, but working together, that it what really counts, because then you literally manifest them.

Shall we all do that?

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